Liking and trusting the people you work with goes a long way in making the hours between 9am and 5pm more enjoyable. Not only can you speak freely with your work friends about work related topics, but also about current events, TV shows and your plans for the weekend.
There are so many things about having to work that can be irritating. Whether it’s working for a boss you can’t stand or having an extra long commute, even those who are lucky enough to have found their dream job can admit there are still one or two things about work they can do without.
With all the many ways your job can suck, the one thing that’s the most unfortunate is when you don’t have a friendly relationship with your coworkers.
Although most people agree that it’s important to have friends at work, for some it can be difficult to let their guard down enough to allow this to happen. Reasons for this range from feeling shy about building those relationships to not even knowing how to start.
Here are 3 things you can start doing right away to go from the loner in the corner cubicle to Ms. Popularity in no time.
Insert Yourself Into Relevant Conversations (But Don’t Overdo It)
How many times have you heard a group of coworkers having an open dialogue about something you know about and/or are interested in and you kept quiet? This is the exact opposite of what someone trying to make friends does.
Group conversations are the perfect way to build rapport with your coworkers and since it isn’t a one on one chat, you don’t have to feel pressure to find something to say the whole time. Next time you see an opportunity to join a conversation already in progress, find a non-awkward moment to insert your opinion into the mix.
Go To Lunch With Your Coworkers
Believe me, I am the first person to use my lunch hour as a time to get some much needed alone time. With all the distractions that happen all day long at work, it can very often be the only chance you get to have some peace and quiet.
While I’m not saying you have to spend every lunch break with someone else, challenging yourself to go to lunch with a coworker at least once a week is a great way to ensure you’re getting face time with the people you work with – away from the desk. Some of my best work relationships have started while waiting in line at the deli across the street from the office.
Make Friends With The Most Popular Person
This is probably the easiest (and laziest) way to make friends at work. The most popular person in the office has already gone through the process of getting to know people and building work relationships – why not capitalize off of their hard work?
Once you’ve gotten to know this person pretty well, it will only be a matter of time before s/he starts bringing you into the fold with all of his/her connections. Use these opportunities to begin creating your own friendships and you will soon have a long list of work buds.
Most people will spend 1/3 of their adult lives at work. Why not make the time more bearable by creating friendships with the people you will spend most of your day with? No one is saying you have to be BFFs with everyone in the office, but I definitely couldn’t imagine working along side people I did not like.